How a partner can help
There are many ways for partners to help with a new baby that don’t involve bottle feeding.
You really don’t need to feed a baby to bond with them. Of course if bottle feeding is something you have chosen to do, its fine but there are so many other ways to interact with a little one and support your relationship.
Babies are very social and will love to spend time gazing into your eyes and looking at your face.
For Dads, testosterone levels will drop with this type of play and interaction, allowing for more oxytocin and sensitivity.
Your baby will know your voice, its great to talk calmly to them and tell them about the world and what you are thinking. They also love to coo and mimic what they see or hear you do.
Breastfeeding can be challenging and lonely, having some one sit and be with you, especially while you are learning can be very supportive. Talk to your partner and praise them for the wonderful job they are doing.
Skin to skin and special cuddles also help build oxytocin and loving calm feelings, babies love it.
Holding a baby upright on your chest after a feed, helps them to rest and digest. Your warm body and the rhythm of your heart beat can be very soothing and relaxing. Most partners would welcome you cuddling and soothing a baby especially after a night feed so that they can get some more sleep.
Changing a nappy can be an excellent way to help out.
Many partners really enjoy seeing the colour changes that come in the first week and can complement their partners on how well they are doing, according to the output.
If a baby has any trouble with digestion, this ‘tiger in a tree’ position can be very helpful. It provides a relaxed but supportive hold with a lovely warm hand on their tummy and gentle movement.
Sometimes a baby may want to look out at the world and interact but from the safe position of your arms.
A sling is a great place for a baby to be held close to you and may give your partner time for a rest or nap while you go for a walk. They really enjoy gentle movement and a sling helps them to safely feel the effects of gravity that they didn’t have in the womb.
Or you can have them in a sling while you do some work, cook dinner or complete some household chores.
Baby massage and lots of kisses are always welcome.
You may have a local baby massage class or group that you can join or watch the video below.
Having a bath together at the end of the day can also be a great way to bond and destress.
Your baby will love to be in the bath with you and they often fall easily into a relaxing sleep afterwards. Just remember to warm a towel on the radiator for when they come out and have someone to pass them to. A wet baby can be quite slippy!
Do remember to rest as well when you can.
Having a baby is amazing, but can be also be extremely challenging and tiring.
Try to help your partner out in ways that you can, and remember to keep talking and sharing your thoughts and feelings with one another. If you need more help with this, or are finding your new parental role difficult please do not be afraid to talk to a GP or health visitor and ask for more support. You can both be at risk of postnatal depression and getting good timely support is essential.
